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Neurodiversity and Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a holiday that offers an opportunity for families and friends to gather, share a meal, and express gratitude for the blessings in their lives. However, for parents of neurodivergent children, this time of celebration can sometimes be accompanied by unique challenges and added stress. Neurodivergent children often thrive in environments where there is a clear structure and routine. Unfamiliar settings, crowded spaces, and unexpected changes in plans can lead to anxiety.  


To ensure that Thanksgiving is an enjoyable and inclusive experience for the whole family, we are chatting today about the “4 S-Word” strategy. This approach focuses on creating a comfortable atmosphere that respects the needs of neurodivergent children. By implementing these four strategies, families can foster a supportive environment where everyone feels valued and included, making the holiday a more joyful occasion for all! 


SAFE FOODS

When celebrating Thanksgiving with a neurodivergent child, it's important to keep in mind that they may have unique sensory processing differences that can affect how they perceive and interact with food. These differences could include heightened sensitivity to certain textures, tastes, or smells, and may lead to reluctance to try unfamiliar Thanksgiving dishes. 


To create a more inclusive experience for everyone, consider offering a diverse array of food options. This could include items that are familiar to your child, as well as those that are less common. Additionally, taking the time to present food in a visually appealing way or allowing them to be involved in the food preparation process can help make meals less overwhelming. 


Remember, there is no strict rule that dictates what must be served during Thanksgiving dinner. Feel free to innovate with non-traditional dishes or even a favorite family recipe that your child enjoys. This flexibility can help ensure that everyone has a positive holiday meal experience.


SCHEDULE

Holiday gatherings can often bring a sense of excitement and joy, but they can also be a bit unpredictable, which might pose challenges for neurodivergent children, particularly those with autism or ADHD. Understanding and anticipating these challenges can be beneficial for both the children and their families. To foster a supportive environment, it’s essential to create clarity around the gathering. Many children might have specific questions about the event, such as who will be attending, how long the gathering will last, and what foods will be featured. Providing answers to these questions can ease anxiety and enhance their overall experience. 


One effective strategy is to utilize visual schedules that illustrate the day's plan. This could include simple illustrations or icons representing the different activities, such as arriving at the venue, meal time, games, or when they can expect to go home. Sharing this schedule with the kids in advance can provide them with a clear roadmap for the day. 


Additionally, having an open conversation with the children about what to expect during the gathering can be equally helpful. Discussing the location, the people who will be there, and changes in their normal routine can make a big difference. This will allow them to mentally prepare for the various social dynamics and sensory experiences they might encounter. Making these small yet impactful adjustments not only supports neurodivergent children but also helps create a more comfortable atmosphere for everyone involved. Ultimately, these efforts contribute to making the holiday gathering a joyful and inclusive experience for all attendees.


SENSORY

Neurodivergent children often navigate a variety of sensory challenges during the holiday season, making it important for caregivers and family members to understand their experiences. Sensory differences are an inherent part of who these children are. Acknowledging and respecting these needs is not just important but can profoundly impact their overall enjoyment and comfort during gatherings. 


For instance, if a child feels overwhelmed, having access to stim toys at the dinner table can provide them with a calming outlet. These tools can help them self-regulate their nervous system and remain engaged in the celebration without feeling overstimulated. Moreover, some children might benefit from using noise-canceling headphones or wearing dark glasses to buffer the sensory overload that often accompanies festivities. These accommodations can create a more enjoyable and safe atmosphere, allowing neurodivergent children to participate at their own comfort level. By fostering an understanding environment and making thoughtful adjustments, we can ensure that everyone in the family experiences a joyful holiday celebration. 


SAFE SPACE

The holiday season can be particularly challenging for many neurodivergent children who experience sensory processing differences. The combination of smells, light up decorations, loud sounds, and busy gatherings can create an overstimulating atmosphere. To support these children it can be beneficial to create a cozy, quiet space where they can retreat and recharge whenever they need a break. This designated area should be comfortably furnished with soft blankets and pillows, offer calming sensory items like fidget toys or weighted blankets, and be equipped with low lighting and minimal noise. Having a safe haven where they can escape the sensory overload can make a big difference in their ability to enjoy the festivities and feel more at ease during this time of year.







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